Returning to work after having a baby is a journey that’s both challenging and rewarding. The transition can be filled with mixed emotions, from excitement and anticipation to anxiety and guilt. It’s a process that requires careful planning, flexibility, and self-compassion. Here’s a guide to help make the transition smoother, along with some practical tips to support you along the way.

1. Prepare Mentally and Emotionally

Returning to work is a significant milestone, and it’s natural to feel a range of emotions. Give yourself permission to feel whatever comes up, whether it’s sadness about leaving your baby, eagerness to reconnect with colleagues, or a mix of both. Remind yourself that these feelings are normal and valid.

Tips for Emotional Preparation:

• Talk to Someone: Whether it’s a fellow parent, a supportive partner, a professional counsellor, or even the staff at the nursery you’ve chosen, discussing your feelings can help. Your child’s nursery will be able to reassure you, you’re not alone in the way you’re feeling.
• Focus on the Positive: Returning to work doesn’t mean leaving motherhood behind. You’re setting a great example for your child by pursuing your career and contributing to your family. Not only that, but some parents find that regaining their identity and having a balance between parenting and work, makes time spent with their child even more enjoyable.
• Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. There’s no “right” way to feel, and it’s okay to feel conflicted.

2. Choose the Right Childcare

One of the biggest decisions you’ll make is choosing the right nursery for your baby. Knowing your child is in a safe, caring environment can bring you peace of mind and make the return to work less stressful.

Finding the Right Fit:

• Visit Nurseries Early: Take the time to research and visit different nurseries well in advance.
• Check for Qualifications and Values: Ensure the nursery you choose has well-qualified, caring staff who align with your parenting values. Look for engaging activities, a focus on development, and a nurturing atmosphere. Our Blog on Choosing the Right Nursery which you can find here may help you understand what else to look for, particularly if this is your first child and visiting nurseries is new to you.
• Build a Relationship with Your Child’s Key Worker: Having a trusted key person at the nursery who knows your child well and communicates openly with you can make the transition feel smoother for both you and your child.

3. Communicate with Your Employer

Open communication with your employer is key to a successful transition. Many workplaces offer support to returning parents, so don’t be afraid to ask for what you need.

How to Talk to Your Employer:

• Discuss Your Needs: If you require flexible hours, remote working options, or a gradual return to full-time work, schedule a conversation with your employer to discuss these arrangements.
• Know Your Rights: Familiarise yourself with your workplace’s parental leave policies and your rights as a returning employee. This can empower you to advocate for yourself.
• Stay Connected: If possible, keep in touch with your colleagues during your leave to make your return feel less daunting. An occasional email or catch-up coffee can go a long way.

4. Ease Back In

If your employer allows, consider easing back into work rather than diving in full-time right away. A gradual return can help both you and your baby adjust.

Transition Strategies:

• Start with Shorter Hours: If you can, work part-time for the first few weeks. This can help you ease into a new routine without feeling overwhelmed.
• Set Realistic Goals: Don’t expect to be at peak productivity immediately. Allow yourself time to re-acclimatise to your role and responsibilities.
• Take Breaks: Pumping breaks or short walks outside can help you reset and recharge during the workday.

5. Manage the Guilt

Parenting comes with its fair share of guilt, and returning to work can intensify those feelings. Remember, feeling guilty doesn’t mean you’re making the wrong choice – it just means you care deeply about your baby.

How to Cope with Guilt:

• Focus on Quality Time: It’s not the quantity of time you spend with your baby but the quality. Be present and engaged during the moments you’re together.
• Embrace the Dual Role: You can be a dedicated parent and a committed professional. Both roles can coexist and even complement each other.
• Trust Your Childcare Setting: Knowing your child is thriving in a warm and stimulating nursery environment can help ease some of the guilt. Remember, your child is also getting a huge head start on their learning whilst you are at work! Stay up to date with what your child is doing if your nursery has a Parent App. If your nursery offers parent events, try to go along so you can strengthen the relationship between nursery and home.

6. Prioritise Self-Care

Amid the demands of parenting and working, don’t forget to take care of yourself. Your well-being is crucial to your ability to care for your baby and excel at work.

Self-Care Ideas:

• Stay Active: Gentle exercise, like walking or yoga, can boost your energy and mood.
• Get Enough Sleep: Prioritise rest as much as possible. A solid night’s sleep can make a big difference in how you feel.
• Enjoy “Me Time”: Whether it’s a warm bath, reading a book, or meeting a friend for coffee, carve out time for activities that recharge you. If your nursery offers ad hoc extra sessions, and you don’t work full time, consider booking the occasional extra session so you can enjoy some time when you’re neither at work, nor caring for your baby.

7. Celebrate Your Strength

Returning to work after having a baby is no small feat. Take a moment to appreciate your resilience and strength. You’re balancing multiple roles, learning every day, and doing the best you can for your family. That’s something to be incredibly proud of.

Final Thoughts Every parent’s return-to-work journey is unique. What works for one person may not work for another, and that’s perfectly okay. Trust your instincts, be flexible, and give yourself some slack. With time, you’ll find a rhythm that works for you and your family.

Our nursery team is here to support your family through this transition. From settling-in sessions to regular updates on your child’s progress, we’re committed to making your return to work as seamless as possible.